So you chose the boudoir session over the bridal session.

Now comes the part where you actually have to figure out what that looks like.

Do you go solo? Do you both get in front of the camera? And how far do you want to take it?

I know these aren’t questions you wake up knowing the answers to. Most people don’t walk around thinking about this stuff until they’re suddenly faced with the decision.

Let’s talk through it.

Going Solo

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Here’s what a solo session gives you: space that’s entirely yours.

No one else in the frame. No one else’s energy to think about. Just you, showing up for yourself in a way that might feel unfamiliar at first.

Some people do this as a gift for the person they love. A way of saying, “This is me. All of me. The version of myself I don’t always show.”

Others do it purely for themselves. Because they want to remember what it feels like to take up space without apologizing for it. To see themselves the way they wish they always could.

It’s quiet. It’s focused. And you get to decide exactly how vulnerable you want to be.

Bringing Your Person

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If the idea of doing this alone makes your chest tight, then don’t do it alone.

Couples boudoir is different. You’re both figuring it out together. Both a little nervous, both leaning into something new. And that shared experience shows up in ways you can’t fake.

I’ve worked with couples who told me afterward that the session brought them closer. Not because of the photos themselves, but because of what it felt like to be that present with each other. To let go of everything else and just exist together for a few hours.

It’s not about performing for the camera. It’s about remembering what it feels like when it’s just the two of you and nothing else matters.

Where This Happens

Location matters more than you might think.

At Home

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Your space. Your light. Your coffee maker in the background if that’s where it lives.

There’s something about being photographed in the place where you actually live your life that makes everything feel more real. Less staged. More like you.

Your bedroom, obviously. But also that spot in your living room where the morning light comes through. Your bathroom if you have a tub you actually use. Even your kitchen if that’s where you feel most comfortable.

The details that make your home yours, they end up in the photos. And that’s not a bad thing.

Somewhere Else Entirely

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Maybe home doesn’t feel right for this. Maybe you want a space that doesn’t look like your everyday life.

A hotel room with big windows and clean lines. A rental tucked into the redwoods where no one can see you. Somewhere that feels a little more elevated, a little more separate from normal life.

These spaces work when you want to step outside your routine. When you want the photos to feel like an experience, not just documentation.

Just know that not every rental or hotel room is going to work. Some spaces look great in photos online and feel completely wrong in person. If you’re going this route, let’s look at options together before you book anything.

Outside

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Then there are people who want the ocean in the background. Who want cliffs, forests, open sky.

Northern California is full of spots like this. Quiet beaches where you won’t see anyone for hours. Trails that lead to clearings where the light comes through the trees just right.

Marshall’s Beach in San Francisco sits right beside the Golden Gate Bridge. The views are incredible, and because it’s clothing-optional, you won’t feel out of place if you want less coverage. It’s secluded enough that you can let go without worrying about who might walk by.

Outdoor sessions require more planning. Weather, privacy, timing. But when everything lines up, there’s nothing else like it.

Hair and Makeup

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Some people want full glam for this. Others want to look like themselves on a really good day. Both work.

If you’re already working with someone for your wedding, you could use this as a trial run. See how everything photographs. Get a second use out of the service.

Or maybe you want to go in a completely different direction. Something you’d never do for your wedding but have always wanted to try.

And if you’d rather do your own, that’s fine too. Whatever makes you feel most like yourself.

The goal isn’t to look like someone else. It’s to feel confident enough to let your guard down.

How Far You Want to Go

This is the part most people have trouble articulating.

Because there’s a big difference between “I want romantic and intimate” and “I want to document everything.” And most people land somewhere in the middle without really knowing how to describe where that middle is.

So let’s break it down.

Soft and Suggestive

This is where most people start. And for a lot of people, it’s also where they stay.

It’s intimate without being explicit. Close without showing everything. The kind of photos that hint at what’s happening without spelling it out.

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For solo sessions, think soft light, a little lace, just enough skin to feel vulnerable without feeling exposed.

For couples, it’s hands that know exactly where to land, foreheads touching, that half-second before a kiss. The photos feel romantic because the moment is romantic.

A lot of people tell me this is exactly what they were hoping for. It’s enough.

Steamier

Some people want to go further.

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They want the photos to feel electric. To capture the pull they feel toward each other when no one else is around.

This is where things get more intense. More skin, more closeness, more honesty about what intimacy actually looks like between you.

It’s not about being explicit. It’s about being real. About letting the camera into moments that usually belong only to you.

No Limits

Then there are people who want to document it all.

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Not because they’re trying to be provocative, but because they want to remember what this feels like. What it’s like to be completely open with each other. To let everything else fall away.

For solo sessions, this might mean full nudity and poses that don’t hold anything back.

For couples, it means capturing intimacy in its fullest form. The passion, the connection, the moments where nothing else exists.

I’m not going to lie to you. Most people don’t choose this. Not because they don’t want it, but because it requires a level of trust that takes time to build. If this is where you want to go, we’ll talk through what that actually looks like before we even pick up a camera.

What You’re Probably Worried About

Let’s just say the quiet parts out loud.

You’re worried you won’t look good. That you’ll feel awkward. That your body won’t cooperate, or your face will do that thing it does in photos where you look like you’re being held hostage.

Here’s the truth: the first five minutes are almost always awkward. Your shoulders are tense, you’re hyperaware of the camera, and you’re thinking about how you’re standing instead of just standing.

And then something shifts. Your body remembers how to just be. The camera stops feeling like a thing you’re performing for and starts feeling like something that’s just there.

That’s when the real photos happen. When you forget to try.

As for looking good, I can’t promise you’ll look like someone else. But I can promise you’ll look like yourself on a day when everything aligned. When you felt safe enough to let your guard down.

And if there’s any photo you see that makes you uncomfortable, it doesn’t exist. We go through everything together. You decide what stays.

Making the Call

If you’re sitting here trying to decide between solo and couples, or trying to figure out how far you’re comfortable going, here’s what I’d tell you.

Don’t overthink it.

Talk to each other if it’s a couples thing. See where the conversation naturally goes. Pay attention to what excites you and what makes you want to change the subject.

And then reach out. We’ll talk through what you’re imagining. What feels good, what feels like too much, what you’re not sure about yet.

This whole thing works best when you’re making decisions based on what you actually want, not what you think you’re supposed to want.

Because at the end of the day, this is about showing up as yourself. Or as the version of yourself you don’t always get to be. Either way, it’s yours.

My job is just to make sure you have the space to do that.

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